These five blunders can be the most negative, damaging, and irreversible mistakes you can make in your career and professional life.
1. LET YOUR RAGE SHOW
We spend more time at work than nearly anywhere else, so it’s normal and even expected that we will experience a wide range of emotions while at work. Unfortunately letting lose on your boss or co-worker will only bring momentary relief—you might think it’s worth it but it simply isn’t worth what it will do to your future prospects and jobs. If you act impulsively and rashly at work, you will likely lose much more than your self-respect.
2. BACKSTAB YOUR COLLEAGUES
You get tired of someone taking credit for your work; you don’t think it’s fair for a co-worker to get “special” attention; and the list goes on. Most of us have experienced the frustration, hurt, anger, sadness and many other feelings along the way of being wronged. It almost comes natural to say a little something here and there. You tell yourself that you are only “warning” the person you are talking to so “it” doesn’t happen to her. The truth is, you want revenge and that never works in the end. Gossiping and backstabbing a colleague will come back to haunt—and hurt—you. It’s not the reputation you want.
Lying is exhausting because you have to perpetuate the lie to avoid being caught. The distress on you physically and mentally will diminish your work product and attitude and that may cause more trouble than the original thing you feared initially when you told the lie. If you have lied on your resume or to others at work about your skills, talent, experience and/or background, you are going to be found out. Your boss and co-workers are going to be expecting a certain level of skill and you won’t be able to deliver because you lied. It’s hard to build a resume with that kind of reference
4. PROCLAIM HOW MUCH YOU HATE YOUR JOB
But what if it’s the truth? That does NOT matter. Words to avoid at work when describing how you feel about your job, boss, work load, associates, etc.: “miserable,” “unhappy,” “fed up,” “ready to leave,” and “time to go.” Your boss will immediately go on the defensive when she hears these words, and she will assume that she need not invest time and energy in helping you grow your career.
Instead, schedule time with your supervisor and talk about what you enjoy doing, what you’ve accomplished, and what you’re ready for. Share how you are committed to your career and how you desire to grow with the company. Let your boss know that you are ready to take on new opportunities and duties that will stretch and grow you. This approach will allow your supervisor to work with you instead of writing you off
5. BURN BRIDGES
One of the things that workers always regret the most is burning bridges at a former employer. Doing so affects references and referrals and that affect continues for years. No matter how upset you are, take a deep breath—go for a walk if you can—but do not say or do something you can’t take back. Instead, nurture your work relationships. We all need other people and not just bosses. Every relationship is worthy of your best behavior and this includes all the people you interact with on a daily basis from the mail guy to the CEO. You never know who might be your strongest ally in the future.