“Without practice, it is unlikely that your intention to connect and communicate with others will ever be realized.” – Ike Lasater, Words That Work In Business
Learning new communication skills can empower you with new knowledge, and hope for a more positive interaction with coworkers in the future.
In some cases, we can become so excited by the possibility of a more positive interaction that we begin to think of NVC as the only tool to get us there. We begin to push these news skills onto our coworkers, disconnecting from the original intention and turning to judgment: “If my coworkers would just ‘do it right’ we wouldn’t have this conflict!”
As you practice your NVC skills, it’s important to ground yourself in your intention. Otherwise you run the risk of using your new skills from a space of defense or offense, a place of judgment and superiority, rather than from your desire to support improved connection for all.
In addition to creating practice agreements, clarify your intention of learning and using NVC on paper as well. What is your hope in acquiring new skills and developing a more compassionate consciousness?
Mindful Practice for the Week
This week, think through your intention of learning and using NVC skills in the workplace. Write your intention on paper so you can continue to reconnect to this intention as you practice.
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